If You Can’t Beat Em, Join Em!
I grew up never watching sports except for the Super Bowl and even then all I cared about was the food. I had very little desire to play sports growing up. Wouldn’t you know it that my husband loved sports! He dedicated his weekends to sitting on the couch and watching football, golf, basketball, and baseball. BORING!!!
When Gary and I officially became boyfriend and girlfriend he had a conversation with me about his love of sports. He said, “I watch sports on the weekends. So don’t try to get me to leave the house. Don’t think you can try and change me. It’s a deal breaker!”
Of course I didn’t listen and I tried to get him to do something else then watch football on Saturdays. Gary loves USC! Die hard Trojan’s fan for life!!! I used to watch as his dad and him would watch games with such intensity. And if the Trojans lost… the world would come crashing down. I just didn’t get it. “It’s just a game” I would say.
I began watching games with him during the Carson Palmer days. Yes, I was paying attention sometimes. I remember who he was because he was hot!!! Gary would be in the worst mood if SC lost a game. He would turn off the TV and definitely wouldn’t watch ESPN. If he was pissing me off I would turn it on just to get a rise out of him. I know, I am terrible.
My attempts to pull him away from the TV were unsuccessful even after offering myself to him. So that goes to show you how dedicated he was to his sport’s teams. I was at a loss on how to get him to not care so much about watching sports. And then it hit me… “If you can’t beat em, join em!” So I decided to watch a game with him. Philadelphia Eagles were Playing the Minnesota Vikings. Purple was my favorite color so I cheering for the Vikings. Daunte Culpepper was the QB and Randy Moss was their top Wide Receiver. I asked all about the game. I wanted to know what penalties were and how the scoring worked. Luckily, Gary was patient with me and answered all of my repetitive questions. I don’t remember who won that day, but I was hooked.
SInce then I have joined in on his other hobbies of watching college football (USC Trojans), Basketball (LA LAKERS), Baseball (Angels), and Golf (My personal favorite is Dustin Johnson). I look forward to the weekends after having a long work week and just hanging out and watching and talking about sports.
My husband came up with the idea to start a Family Fantasy Football League. We just celebrated our 10th year of playing. Unfortunately, I have not won the Championship yet. It’s still fun, well unless you are losing all year. Oh boy, I have been there a few before. I like it for the draft party every year.
I have a girlfriend that is even more obsessed with football then me. She also plays on a family Fantasy Football League. She knows stats on most players, what teams they are on, and from watching documentaries she could tell you their life story. I have to up my game if I want to be at her level.
It’s crazy how now the tables have turned and I am just as crazy about sports as he is. Sometimes, I feel like I am the one making an effort to do things he wants to do. I love to go for walks and always gives me the line that he walks every day all day at work and the last thing he wants to do is walk or he has a lot to do. I stopped trying to point out all the things we didn’t share in common and find things that would bring us together.
I started making a list of the things that we do together that we both enjoy. He taught me a lot about cooking and we enjoy making meals together. He is the BBQ King and I am the side dish Queen. We make a great team in the kitchen. We love to go to Laughlin! It’s our place to relax, gamble, and have some cocktails. We enjoy hanging out together outside after Jax goes to bed. We will either go in the spa or sit by the fire pit. Before we had Jax we would meet up for happy hour after work at Bj’s or Yard House. We also like to try new hot spots around town whether it’s brewery or a restaurant. I never used to drink beer especially the Craft Beers he would bring home. I would try them here and there but I would usually just have a sip. I went with him to a Brewery and had a flight of beers that were to my liking. I had a new favorite… IPA! Yet another thing that he got me hooked on. Now he calls me a beer snob.
I still have to force Gary to do things that I want to do. He definitely does not do them willingly. Case in point… Our family photos. He is threatening to wear his underwear in protest. I told him to go right ahead. I work from home and he drives to Downtown LA five days a week. I want to get out of the house on the weekends and he wants to relax at home. So it is like pulling teeth to get him to do something other than be at home. I have learned that I need to give him ample warning if I am planning something. No way could I spring something on him last minute.
It would be great if Gary was more willing to give the things I like to do a try, but it’s one of those things that I “try” not to dwell on. We have different interests and then there are the things that we enjoy doing together. If I have learned anything from all of this, it is that I know I am willing to try new things and most of the time I end up enjoying it. So my advice is to give it a try. Do you know the sayings?… “You won’t know if you’ll like it, unless you try” or “You’ll never know, unless you try”. And who knows maybe one of these days Gary will get a wild hair up his ass and try something I enjoy doing and he will end up LOVING IT! I am not giving up hope on him.